The Secret To Having a Healthy Relationship.

A guide of what not to do in a loving relationship.

Ahh yes, relationships, you have either been in one or are going to be in one, they have either been shitty or actually fun. Either ways you might have experienced a heartbreak that might have left you wondering “well what did I do wrong”.

Well, This guide is so you don’t mess up your new and blooming relationship or if you are just trying to figure out where you or your significant other went wrong, so without any wait let’s get started.

1. Rushing into a relationship.

Rushing into a relationship is something that all of us have done at some point in our life. What this basically means is not letting things happen organically and rushing into things head first, be it a relationship or intimacy. I see a lot of teens doing this and I say this with a lot of experience because I was a teen just a few short years ago, actively seeking someone to date and forcing this one standard on yourself can make you take the wrong decision and in the long run maybe even hurt you. How to deal with it you ask? Simple, let things happen organically, this doesn’t mean that don’t talk or flirt but rather give yourself and the other person time to sort things out.

2.Including other people in “your” relationship.

Now by this, I don’t mean that you shouldn’t have a non-monogamous relationship, no. By this I mean it’s “your” relationship so don’t include your best friend or cousins or parents into it, having them there is the easiest way of having miscommunication and miss understandings. When you are dating someone and you get cross talks or just info about them not from them but someone else, it almost feels like 3rd wheeling in your own relationship, and again let me emphasize it can create soooooo much miss understanding.

3. Don’t compare your current with your EX.

If you ask me, this is probably the dumbest thing you can do.No comparing to the EXs not even positive ones like “hey, you are taller than him/her” or “hey, you are more athletic than him/her”, to you, yeah it might feel like a compliment but to them, it might feel like an arrow to the chest. This just shows them that you are still in the “window shopping” phase and you are still comparing and contrasting between both of them. If you ask me I don’t give a shit about if I am “victorious” in that comparison or not NO ONE LIKE IT.

4.know the components of your relationship and cherish them.

According to my experience there are 3 basic components to a romantic relationship (love, sex, friendship) know and understand what your relationship is based on and honestly cherish it. Don’t have a dumb idea or some ideal relationship and try to mold your unique situation to it.

5. Be true to yourself and them.

See this is important for any relationship not just between you and your significant other. keeping this in mind don’t stay in a relationship just cause you are scared to be alone, here imma give you some math, Earth’s current population is 7,807,845,277 which is an odd number so 1 guy has to stay single (imma take a bullet for the team) so y’all have someone for you (math don’t lie).so chill out don’t be scared and lie to your significant other about liking some habit that you don’t or some food that you don’t, cause these small lies tend to add up and boy can they do some damage, so be true to yourself and them.

6. Communicate

I feel like this should be way above the list and it’s one of the basics but this goes hand in hand with some of the above points. Communicate with your significant other, be real with them, tell them what you like and what you don’t, and just let things out once in a while, healthy communication is probably the most important thing in a relationship (no it’s sex, but for the sake of the article).

7.Don't hate people close to your significant other

It’s as basic as don’t pull him away from the Bois. But it's not just for the boys, don’t pull them away from anyone who they are close to, a childhood friend, cousins, or just parents. The bitter truth is he/she has known them for years and trusts them with their life so if it comes between you and them, you bet he will choose them, not you. Give them some personal space and heck enjoy your bro.

8.learn to let go

Well all things are not meant to be and all things don’t pan out the way you want them to, sometimes you just have to be mature. Take this piece of advice when you are done with a relationship and or going for a rebound, don’t hold onto the past cause believe me it’s ain’t worth it. live in the moment, embrace it but honestly don’t fuck it up just for the sake of something that you don’t have anymore.

Well, that’s all I had to tell you folk, let me know if you actually use any of these and obviously if they help. And also lemme know some of your stories and as always….

Peace Out.